Letter to Sarah from Ellen Kusar (May 13, 2016)
Dear Sarah,
Yesterday and today I had the joy of spending time with your family...the family you have rejected. Your wonderful mother with her heart for the hurting. One of the kindest women I know. Your beautiful sister with two of the most adorable children. Being the kind of mother I admire and always strived to be.
I watched your mother and sister laugh, joke, tease, and love one another. The way that mothers and daughters do. The bond between them is lovely, and is made even stronger by a sadness that both must endure every day. The sadness caused by you and your sister and your brothers. The sadness of knowing that Noah and John do not know their aunts, uncles and cousins. The heartbreak of not being able to love their sons, daughters, brothers, sisters, grandchildren, nieces and nephews. Sarah, this is foolish. You have given up so much, caused so much hurt, and you don't even know why. You have believed a lie.
Today you told Gretel you would leave some of her childhood belongings at the end of your driveway hanging on the mailbox. Isn't that cowardly? Where is the love of Christ that real Christians have for all? Did you feel a little ashamed hearing their voices calling you? They knocked on your door but you had your TV on inside, why? So your children wouldn't hear their Gramma and Auntie at the door? I hope you felt ashamed; you should. What are your actions teaching your children? That they should hide, lie, deceive and move in darkness? What will you tell your children when they are grown up, and find out that their Gramma and Auntie and little cousins often came knocking on your door? That you did not have kindness and courtesy for your family, that you would show a stranger? Do you only care about money, power, and the praises of false pastors who commend you for despising the very parents and siblings you were raised with? That God placed in your lives? (Your pastor often speaks of being placed in a church by God Himself and therefore you remain in that church. Did not God Himself place you in a family?) I am sad for you. But your mom says soon you will call and come home. She will never give up on you and your brothers and sister. You have lost so much time and so many memories, hurry Sarah.
Ellen Kusar
Yesterday and today I had the joy of spending time with your family...the family you have rejected. Your wonderful mother with her heart for the hurting. One of the kindest women I know. Your beautiful sister with two of the most adorable children. Being the kind of mother I admire and always strived to be.
I watched your mother and sister laugh, joke, tease, and love one another. The way that mothers and daughters do. The bond between them is lovely, and is made even stronger by a sadness that both must endure every day. The sadness caused by you and your sister and your brothers. The sadness of knowing that Noah and John do not know their aunts, uncles and cousins. The heartbreak of not being able to love their sons, daughters, brothers, sisters, grandchildren, nieces and nephews. Sarah, this is foolish. You have given up so much, caused so much hurt, and you don't even know why. You have believed a lie.
Today you told Gretel you would leave some of her childhood belongings at the end of your driveway hanging on the mailbox. Isn't that cowardly? Where is the love of Christ that real Christians have for all? Did you feel a little ashamed hearing their voices calling you? They knocked on your door but you had your TV on inside, why? So your children wouldn't hear their Gramma and Auntie at the door? I hope you felt ashamed; you should. What are your actions teaching your children? That they should hide, lie, deceive and move in darkness? What will you tell your children when they are grown up, and find out that their Gramma and Auntie and little cousins often came knocking on your door? That you did not have kindness and courtesy for your family, that you would show a stranger? Do you only care about money, power, and the praises of false pastors who commend you for despising the very parents and siblings you were raised with? That God placed in your lives? (Your pastor often speaks of being placed in a church by God Himself and therefore you remain in that church. Did not God Himself place you in a family?) I am sad for you. But your mom says soon you will call and come home. She will never give up on you and your brothers and sister. You have lost so much time and so many memories, hurry Sarah.
Ellen Kusar
